Improving Relationships

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- Invest in Your Relationship: The Emotional Bank Account (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QHN2EKd9tuE)

 

- John and Julie Gottman: Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V8XlHGHP98I&t=1s)
 

- What Does Compatibility Really Mean? (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gu6taHa0qAE)

 

- Busting the 5 Most Common Relationship Myths (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BwvVrpLg-hQ)

 

- The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work (https://www.gottman.com/product/the-seven-principles-for-making-marriage-work/)

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- The Easiest Way to Improve Your Relationship - The Gottman Institute (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ib7Ain2aVR0)

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- How to Use the Soft Startup from Dr. John Gottman (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6LQ5un4-8_Y)

 

- Softened Start-Up: Gottman’s Way to Gentle Beginnings (https://www.couplestherapyinc.com/softened-start-up-gottmans-way-to-gentle-beginnings/)

 

- How to Fight Smarter: Soften Your Startup ( https://www.gottman.com/blog/softening-startup/ )

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Fondness & Admiration 

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- Share Fondness and Admiration (https://www.gottman.com/blog/share-fondness-and-admiration/)

 

- Expressing Fondness and Admiration (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zVzTD22fQM4)

 

- Fondness and Admiration in Longterm Relationships (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Xc7U8S7goeg)

 

- Love Quiz: Fondness and Admiration (https://www.gottman.com/blog/fondness-and-admiration-assessment/)    

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Conflict & Relationship Difficulty

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- How to Complain Without Hurting Your Partner (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bShsyKUFjKE)

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- Julie Gottman on What Works in Couples Conflict (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ubu6hV1BDlE)

 

- The Gottman Method: How to Discuss Sensitive Topics in Relationships (https://www.smartcounselingca.com/blog/a-hrefhttpssmartcounselingcacomblog1025856-the-gottman-method-how-to-discuss-sensitive-topics-in-relationshipsthe-gottman-method-how-to-discuss-sensitive-topics-in-relationshipsa#:~:text=Start%20Gently%3A%20Rather%20than%20immediately,or%20accusing%20the%20other%20person.)

 

- P is for Problems (https://www.gottman.com/blog/p-is-for-problems/)

 

- Choose Love Over Fear (https://www.gottman.com/blog/choose-love-over-fear/)

 

- The Edge of Hope Lessons on Regret for a Marriage in Crisis (https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-edge-of-hope-lessons-on-regret-for-a-marriage-in-crisis/)    

 

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Communication

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- Dr. Gottman’s 3 Skills (and 1 Rule!) for Intimate Conversation (https://www.gottman.com/blog/dr-gottmans-3-skills-and-1-rule-for-intimate-conversation/)

 

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- Deepening Connections – Integrating Internal Family Systems and Gottman Principles for Healthier Relationships (https://www.gottman.com/blog/deepening-connections-gottman-and-ifs/)

 

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- The Top 3 Gottman Interventions for Better Communication (https://cardinalpointcounseling.com/the-top-3-gottman-interventions-for-better-communication)

 

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- In Relationships, Not Arguing Means You’re Not Communicating (https://www.gottman.com/blog/relationships-not-arguing-means-youre-not-communicating/)

 

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- John Gottman Four Horsemen – How to Communicate Effectively in a Relationship (https://www.from2to3.com.au/how-to-communicate-effectively-in-a-relationship/)

 

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- The Four Horsemen: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling (https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/)

 

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- Healthy Conflict: Marriage & Relationship Advice from Drs John & Julie Gottman (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rHKb1JXV0PQ)

 

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- How to Complain Without Hurting Your Partner – Dr. Julie Gottman (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bShsyKUFjKE)

 

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- Fighting Right and Deepening Relationships with John & Julie Gottman (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I0nOc8KmA9U)

 

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- How to Improve Communication in Your Relationships (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fPi2EoZxM68)

 

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- Couples Tips: Improve Communication by Softening Your Startup (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=howWmiECxIQ)

 

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- Relationship Communication: John Gottman’s Repair Attempts (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JDh86zOJZig)

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Dating

 

Making Marriage Work - Dating to Marry: Gottman Principles for Singles (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AKTyPgwfPgg)

 

Dating Anxiety: How to Move Forward (https://www.gottman.com/blog/dating-anxiety-how-to-move-forward/)

 

How Do Gottman Principles Apply to the Dating World? (https://www.gottman.com/blog/gottman-principles-dating-world/)

 

Dating After a Breakup (https://www.gottman.com/blog/dating-after-a-breakup/)

 

Bending Without Breaking: How to Identify Needs and Preferences When Dating (https://www.gottman.com/blog/bending-without-breaking-identify-needs-preferences-dating/)

 

Keeping Up Hope While Dating (https://www.gottman.com/blog/keeping-up-hope-while-dating/)

 

“Small ‘T’ trauma” and Its Effect on Dating (https://www.gottman.com/blog/small-t-trauma-and-its-effect-on-dating/)

 

Three Keys of Dating (https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-three-keys-of-dating/)       

 

Dating to Marry: Gottman Principles for Singles (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8FVEY1PiRyE)

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Relationship Needs

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- Values in relationships: 7 core values for strong relationships (https://www.calm.com/blog/values-in-relationships)

 

- 10 Emotional Needs to Consider in Relationships (https://www.healthline.com/health/emotional-needs#:~:text=Affection.%20Most%20relationships%20involve%20different%20kinds%20of,other's%20unique%20approaches%20toward%20fulfilling%20this%20need)

 

- 7 tips on how to communicate your needs in a relationship (https://www.calm.com/blog/how-to-communicate-your-needs-in-a-relationship#:~:text=Emotional%20support%20means%20having%20someone%20who%20listens,and%20is%20central%20to%20a%20strong%20relationship.)

 

- Looking for Love: Understanding What You Need (https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/love-and-dating-what-you-need)

 

- 10 Emotional Needs to Consider in Relationships (https://www.healthline.com/health/emotional-needs)

 

- What a Healthy Partnership Looks Like (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/traversing-the-inner-terrain/202211/what-healthy-partnership-looks#:~:text=They%20need%20someone%20who%20stays,live%20life%20on%20life's%20terms)

 

- How to Give (and Receive) Emotional Support (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/finding-a-new-home/202401/a-guide-to-giving-and-receiving-emotional-support)       

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Ending Relationships

 

 

- How to Get Over a Breakup with John Gottman (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6du4ebTPYRM)

 

- How to Know When Breaking Up Is the Healthiest Choice (https://www.gottman.com/blog/know-when-breaking-up-healthiest-choice/)

 

- How to Know a Relationship Is Too Much Work (https://www.gottman.com/blog/how-to-know-a-relationship-is-too-much-work/)

 

- How to Break Up (https://www.gottman.com/blog/how-to-break-up/)

 

- The Gottman Institute’s Micheal Fulwiler On Breaking Up And The Science Of Love (https://www.letsmend.com/posts/howimend-the-gottman-institute-s-michael-fulwiler-on-breaking-up-and-the-science-of-love)

 

- Ending Relationships Effectively Using DBT Skills (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dOdeZcgvFZo)  

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